What do I do when my feelings are hurt?
CONVERSATIONS:
Q. What do I do when my feelings are hurt?
- It’s a family reunion, and your aunt thoughtlessly comments: “What’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you married yet? “ - Your parents have favorite children, and it’s obvious that you’re not one of them - You work hard at your job, and someone else gets the credit.
There are many situations that can cause us to feel hurt. Now was it really your feelings that got hurt, or your ego?
Ego: is defined as a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance. “Usually when we think our feelings have been hurt, It is actually our ego that has been affected.” - Rachel Ong
Q. Reflect and comment on that quote.
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So what’s a Christian to do when this happens?
The following truths will help:
1. Remember: a. You can always bring your concerns to the Lord.
If there’s anyone who knows how being hurt, betrayed or insulted felt like, it was Jesus. He can empathize with you because he knows how it feels to be treated unfairly. Let Him know what bothers you.
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken. Psalm 55:22
The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous, and his ears are open to their cry. Psalm 34:15
b. Your value is not Performance-based, but God-made.
Your value doesn’t come from the life you create, but from the Creator who who made you.
You were born valuable, crafted by God in your mother’s womb. If your value came from your performance, or from what other people say about you, then your sense of self- worth fluctuates from day to day.
But God’s love for you never changes. He loves you at your best. Yet He also loves you at your worst.
The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. “ Jeremiah 31: 3 NIV
c. When others put you down, Christ lifts you Up.
But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ – by grace you have been saved, and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus. Ephesians 2:4-6
Q. The world’s arena is sometimes described as a “rat race”, “dog-eat-dog”, “cutthroat competition”. But according to Ephesians 2, what is your position in life?
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2. Make it your life’s goal to please the Lord.
Every temptation to be hurt is an opportunity to move in the opposite spirit. God could be allowing you the chance to be Christ-like by not responding as the world does. God sees and God will reward.
“Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.” Colossians 3:17
“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.“ Galatians 2:20 (NLT)
According to the above verses, how should we live our lives?
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Prayer:
Dear Heavenly Father,
I give you my concerns ______________________________. I thank you that my value comes from Your love for me and not my abilities. Thank you for reminding me that this world doesn’t revolve around how I feel but Your will. Help me fix my eyes on Jesus and not on my feelings.
In all my ways, be Lord and Savior, even of my emotions. Help me turn this hurt into an opportunity to honor You,
In Jesus name, amen.
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