The Point Between Journeys
We have come to the end of our series on “The One Lesson That Changed My Marriage”. It’s been a long journey of twenty-one weeks.
The Journey Continues
As we end the series, let me remind you once again (for the last time) that marriage is a relationship. The etymology of the word combines two words: relation and ship. A relation is someone we are connected to, while ship originally meant “to be contained in a journey.”
Marriage therefore is a journey we have with a person we are connected to for the rest of our lives until we enter the realms of eternity with Christ. So to end, here’s a quick summary and review of the series. Marriage is about…
1. Laying the Right Foundation
Before anything, it is important to lay the right foundation to any relationship, most especially marriage. The foundation of every successful marriage is trust. This I explained in 5 posts:
The Risk and Responsibility of Marriage
The History of Trust
The True North of Trust
The Truth About Bad Breath
How to Trust in Troubled Waters
2. Having the Right Motivation
If trust is the foundation of a marriage, love is its motivation. Love is the very thing that God inscribed into our souls when He created us and He wants it established in our marriages and families. I elaborate on this further in the five posts I wrote on love:
Love is Not a Verb
Love and a Warm Heart
Why We Keep Watching Love Stories
The Love Fruit
Love Strained
3. Hitting the Reset Button (whenever necessary)
But more than just trust and love, the fact remains that regardless of how trustworthy spouses are or how much love they give one another, there are limits to both. Our trust and love, unlike God’s, are imperfect. The good news is God created a way out: forgiveness. Forgiveness is the reset button to a trust that has failed and a love that has faltered. I cite the importance of forgiveness in my four posts:
How to Kill Your Marriage
How to Save Your Marriage
Uncaged Freedom
No Ordinary Prison
4. Building on the Relationship
Marriages are designed to grow stronger over time. We build our marriages through constantly communicating with our spouses: by exchanging our thoughts, words, and sentiments with them. Communication is the process by which we build our relationships. I highlight the four kinds of communication in my articles:
The Final Ingredient
Ping-Pong
Words Without Actions
Un-Mechanical
There you have it, the summary of my new eBook. My eBook will be made available soon and all my subscribers will get to download the book for free at the Book Bar of my website.
Bon Voyage
Thank you for staying with me as we end our series journey together and for sharing the posts with your friends. Bon voyage! May God bless you and your spouse as you continue on with your own marriage journey, and as you grow closer to fulfilling your marriage’s destiny in Christ.
P.S. In a few weeks, I shall be starting a new series that I trust you will enjoy.
P.P.S. I would very much like to hear from you! Feel free to share your thoughts on this series in the comment box below or write to me.
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