Posted September 22, 2015 under Videos

How Can I Have a Better Control of My Life?


The older we get, the more we desire control. We want to be able to control our lives, our families, our investments, our future.

But looking at myself in the mirror, I’m realizing how little control I really have. I can’t even control my white hair from growing!

Here are Three observations:

1. Total Control is a Myth.  There is no human being that has total control over his life.

Q. Can you think of a person that seemed to have everything under control?



The brightest student has his or her limits. Even the strongest and most successful of men have a limit to their strength and their years on earth.

2. Control comes from our human Desire to be on top of things. We don’t like unexpected changes or unpleasant surprises.

Q. What areas of your life do you wish you could control?



3. The best of our control is still Limited. The Bible is clear about who really calls the shots: As a Christian, here’s a healthier perspective:

a. Turn over control to God.

God is our master, we are stewards.

“I may not have all the answers, but I can be secure that God has control over my life and over all creation.”

“Our God is in the heavens; he does all that he pleases.”    Psalm 115:3

b) Desire what God Desires.

"For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me." John 6:38

Instead of us trying to control and dictate to God what we want to happen, let’s have the attitude of Jesus, who prayed to His Father, “Not my will, but Yours be done.”

Q. What situation are you currently facing or worrying about, that you can put under God’s control?



c) Desire Self-Control rather than full control.

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.     2 Timothy 1: 7

Putting God in control of your life, doesn’t mean you don’t live a life of excellence. It means being a responsible steward who takes care of the gifts, talents and opportunities that the Master has given you.

One of the valuable skills we can train ourselves and our children is in the area of self-control. The ability to say no to sin and yes to what pleases the Lord.

A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.     Proverbs 25:28


Dear Heavenly Father,

I realize that the reason why I want to be in control, is because I desire security in my life. Today I realize that my security doesn’t come from being in control of every situation, rather, my security comes from knowing my Loving Father, is in control of everything. Yours, O Lord, is the kingdom, the power and the glory. All authority on heaven and earth belong to You.

So Father, I surrender my life into your hands, especially this particular area:


Let your good, pleasing and perfect will be done in my life, and in all our plans.

Holy Spirit, give me and my family the gift of self-control. Put in us a deep desire to love what You love and to hate what You hate. Make it our desire in life to please You more than our flesh.

I choose not to give in to fear but instead trust in your Sovereign hand to guide me all the way through. In Jesus name, Amen.

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One thought on “How Can I Have a Better Control of My Life?”

  1. dane mira says:

    hi! pastor joey, your blog contributes a lot to my ministry in preaching. this really guide me and gave wisdom to my preaching. It is really BIG help indeed! God bless your ministry pastor!

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